I left you at the beginning of December with a confession about our TTC journey. It turns out that our two week wait that cycle ended with a positive pregnancy test. A few positives to be exact!
When I got the BFP with our son in 2013, I went to the doctor's the next day to confirm. This was after I had already gotten a false positive a few months earlier so I was a little gun shy about believing it. When the Doctor came in to tell me my results and saw my excited expression she proceed to tell me "1 in 4 women experience a miscarriage in the first 8 weeks so you might consider waiting to get too excited and telling people until after that." I haven't been back to see that doctor since then and we announced our pregnancy publicly a few days later. But those words were echoed by a few people choosing to express some loving concern.
So why do I still announce my pregnancies early?
I'm a firm believer that no matter what happens, you still had a baby. Even if I were to experience a pregnancy loss, I was still pregnant and didn't just lose some cells and tissue but lost a child who I was attached to and had planned a future around.
When women are told they shouldn't tell other's about a pregnancy until they are in the "safe zone" of the 2nd trimester, they are subconsciously being told that they shouldn't talk about early pregnancy loss either. This adds shame and loneliness to an already emotionally devastating experience. I know that if I would experience a loss no matter how many weeks along, I would need as much love and support as I could get. How likely would I get this if no one else was attached to the idea of my pregnancy?
Also as one of Jehovah's Witnesses, we believe that life begins at conception. To me that means that no matter how small and fragile, those cells are still a baby. If I were to buy into the notion of the 1st trimester rule, then would I really be valuing the life that is growing inside of me? Or would I be leaning closer to the idea that a 1st trimester embryo isn't really a baby yet - an opinion that is propagated by the pro-choice movement?
Today I am 6w3d. We announced my pregnancy 2 weeks ago at the opening of Star Wars: The Force Awakens where all our parents were together for one of only 6 times in our marriage. It was a special event for us already since we are huge Star Wars fans and being able to share such exciting news made it all the better.
In the past 2 weeks, I have already experienced increased fatigue, morning sickness, and rapid bump development. All a reminder of the similar thought I had last pregnancy of how would I ever hide these symptoms if I was choosing to keep my pregnancy secret for another 4-8 weeks.
I completely respect women who choose to keep their pregnancies secret for THEIR OWN REASONS. But I hope that they have made that decision for themselves and not because of the pressure doctors and society places on us to keep our pregnancies concealed for a specific amount of time.
Anyone else an early announcer? If not, what made you decide to wait?