There have been many fantastic articles about limiting the number of visitors you have at your birth. And many of the arguments for this view are very sound. Since becoming a doula, I’ve found many of my colleagues agree with Family Psychologist, Daniel Chable, who believes only those present for the conception should be at the birth (with the exception of medical and support staff). For them it’s a matter of being able to preserve the birth environment as a quiet, sacred space without conflicting emotions and opinions being presented to the laboring mother. As a woman who embraced the crowd birth experience, I have a different view of the matter.
I left you at the beginning of December with a confession about our TTC journey. It turns out that our two week wait that cycle ended with a positive pregnancy test. A few positives to be exact!
When I got the BFP with our son in 2013, I went to the doctor's the next day to confirm. This was after I had already gotten a false positive a few months earlier so I was a little gun shy about believing it. When the Doctor came in to tell me my results and saw my excited expression she proceed to tell me "1 in 4 women experience a miscarriage in the first 8 weeks so you might consider waiting to get too excited and telling people until after that." I haven't been back to see that doctor since then and we announced our pregnancy publicly a few days later. But those words were echoed by a few people choosing to express some loving concern.
So why do I still announce my pregnancies early?